6 Mistakes women make when it comes to sex

Ladies, be honest: when your sex life becomes a little humdrum (dull), out comes the mental catalogue of all the ways your partner isn't quite measuring up. And sure, we guys make our fair share of bedroom errors. But as the saying goes, "it takes two to tango". As a sex and relationship expert - I observed that women make plenty sex mistakes of their own and here’s my take on these mistakes...

Mistake #1: Not Initiating Sex With Your Partner

Many women worry about "lady-like behaviour". They don’t want to appear pushy or come on too strong for fear of being labelled a "slut". Accordin' to research, failing to initiate sex is one of the biggest mistakes women make. Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up imbalance on the passion scale in the relationship, generally, men want to be pursued by their partners just as much as women do.

Holding on to outdated ideas about sex roles inhibit satisfaction with our sexual relationships, people used to think that women are less interested in sexual activity and I don’t want to say that anymore. I think there are women who are as interested in sex [as men]. Show your interest by taking the first step from time to time. Your partner will likely appreciate it, and you may find a new level of satisfaction in taking responsibility for your sexual experience - this is something I strongly feel women must do...

Mistake #2: Worrying About What You Look Like

Thinking about how you look during sex stops you from enjoying yourself and ruins your chances of achieving an orgasm. Don’t think about the fat on your belly or the makeup on your face or the size of your boobs etc...concentrate on the pleasure of the act. You must give yourself permission to have an orgasm. Men want their women to abandon themselves in sex play, and that’s not likely if she is anxious about her physical concerns. Men don’t notice half the things women obsess about.

It’s amazing what we men don’t notice if a woman is enthusiastic, energetic, interested in us and flexible minded. So, rather than worry about the shape of your waist and hips, worry about your energy level, enthusiasm and interest in your man.

Mistake #3: Assuming Sex Is Casual for a Man

I believe we should all let go of old-fashioned notions, such as - women are not sexual - or that - sex is just sex to men.

“For most men, sex is a very important act. Don’t minimize it.”

Research supports the idea that both men and women find sexual intimacy in a committed relationship to be more satisfying. Numerous research studies make it very clear that the people who have the best quality and most frequent sex are married couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of ‘casual sex'.

In fact, believe it or not- more than 50% of women and 52% of men who go to one-night stands do so hoping to create longer relationships. One third of them actually do so. What’s the lesson?

“Never assume that a man is not romantic”.

Mistake #4: Believing He’s Always Up for Sex

Sure, most teenage boys are ready and willing just about any time you ask, but not true for men. The pressures of everyday life - family, work, bills - can zap a man’s libido. This comes as a big surprise to many women, and often a man's lack of interest in sex is something women take personally. It comes as such a shock [to women] that they just don’t believe it, when their partner says they aren’t in the mood for sex. They know themselves that they are not always interested in sex but they still love the man. But when most women discover their man doesn’t want to have sex, they think, ‘he doesn’t love me.’ - Not true. He just may not want to have sex.

Mistake #5: Not Giving Him Guidance

For most women, talking very directly about sex - what they like and don’t like can make them feel uncomfortable, even with a partner they’ve been with for a long time and otherwise feel close to. But it’s the only way to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship. A woman must take responsibility for her sexual encounter. No man can bring a woman to orgasm if she doesn’t take responsibility for her sexual experience. Even the best lover can’t know all she needs without her letting him know. The good news is that men very much want to please women. If you can tell your man in a way that doesn’t kill his ego, he will appreciate it.

Mistake #6: Getting Upset When He Suggests Something New

After a couple has been together for a while, it’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short: Don’t take it personally. Still, nobody should ever feel obligated to do something they don’t want to do. If it is simply a startling request and you’re initially uneasy about it, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about it.

I hope these helps...all the best.......